Showing posts with label inspirational. Show all posts
Showing posts with label inspirational. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Weekend....

So, by some stroke of serendipity (I've been stumbling over a lot of that, lately) the latest 'old' entry that popped up was talking about transplanting bushes, and OS kindly noted that this time of year is about the best time of year to do it (bushes are dormant, ground isn't frozen) and it's been raining BUCKETS for the last two - no, three - days - making the ground softer than my hair.

So.

Looks like I might be transplanting bushes this weekend. The move-to ditch is mostly done - I did that much earlier in the year, and I just need to rip out the greenery that has overtaken it, and finish expanding it. The bushes themselves will be 'fun' to dig up and move - but I need to do it anyhow, as it's messing with my gardening steelo, so, that'll be okay.

I'm also supposed to get my treadmill this weekend (yippee!!) so I need to clean the junk from outside the house.

I need closed crocs to work outside in - not the ones with the holes in it, as it's wet and cold and wet & cold feet are the anti-funness.

I got this interesting email yesterday, and I'm going to try to start encorporating the suggestion into my daily life.


Did you know that by simply removing one word from your vocabulary, and replacing it with another, you can put yourself in the driver’s seat and gain 100 percent control of your life?
More often than not, the word “CAN’T” is the culprit of your failures. By replacing “CAN’T” with “WON’T,” you open the door to asking yourself the right questions that may help you get out of your own imaginary prison.
Do you say “I can’t take a vacation,” or “I can’t get a better job”?
By changing those statements to, “I won’t take a vacation,” and “I won’t get a better job,” what questions are raised?
Why won’t you? What’s holding you back? What are you not willing to do to make it happen? Plenty of people have done those things, and are doing them right now as you’re reading this, so they’re obviously not real impossibilities!
Start your transformation by paying close attention to when and how you use the word “can’t,” and then repeat the sentence in your mind, replacing “can’t” with “won’t.” Analyze the sentence, and you may be in for an awakening.


I thought that was interesting, and challenging, and relatively simple, overall, so - yeah.

Urmmm. I think that about it.

Stay warm, ya'll.

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Poem for the Dark Moon

REST OF LONGING

Trust those places
With no way out,
The dark corridors
Of your longing.

In fact, entrust them
More than you give
To daylight, which disappears
With fall of night.

Only hidden light
Who waits for you
In darkness
Can reveal the invisible
Passage from darkness
That leaves nothing
Behind.

Jack Weber

Tuesday, January 2, 2007

Answer #1: How I Became Rich......

In my 'Ask me anything' entry, BlessedBeauty left me a note, asking how I became rich.  Really, I've always been rich, and I simply wasn't aware of the fact.  

I first watched that video - oh, a few months ago now,  and it really - brought home to me, in a way that nothing else ever has, how wealthy I - and most people who are able to read this entry - are.  And yeah, it's kinda sappy, in a 'We are the World' sort of way - but it's also been VERY personally peaceful for me.

I was ALWAYS the one fretting about money - will we have enough? why don't we have more? Oh, only if I had X dollars I would be able to do W, and Y, and maybe even G! - and honestly, it stressed me. It wore me down. It drove my husband BATTY.  I was always so 'forward-focused', and so busy looking at all the stuff OTHER people had, and wondering why I didn't have quite as much stuff, and wondering if I would EVER have quite as much stuff. 

Then, I really started thinking about it - about how I deal with money, and how it works (or doesn't work, as the case may be) with what I claim is my worldview - that money is energy & time, condensed into a form that can be given and taken away. That money, really is, a means to an end, and simply because the money isn't there, doesn't mean that the end won't ever be reached - it might be harder, it might take more effort and time and energy - but if it's worthy, if it's truly WORTH it - it'll happen. It'll get done. 

And then, I really started thinking about all the grandiose PLANS I had for the 'money' that I didn't have, and I realized that most of them were actually experiences - things I wanted to learn/try/do - and that  the MONEY aspect of it was really all around me getting more 'stuff' to be able to do something. Did I REALLY need a 250 dollar sewing machine to start sewing? Nope - a 3 dollar one from the thrift store is all I really need - and most women, across the WORLD, make do with even less.  Do I really need the full set of gardening tools to get my ass outside and digging in some dirt?  Nope - all I REALLY need is my hands and a hoe - what most people in the world use to feed themselves when they don't have enough 'money' to pay someone else to feed them. 

It's really been a seachange in how I deal with money, and how I percieve wealth. I have my health, I have a roof over my head, I have enough clothing to last me for years, I have a college education, I have a computer (of my own!) and can afford the electricity to run it, I have a fridge and a deep freezer and a car, and dammit, I'm rich!! And to even consider myself anything less than rich is denying the reality of exisitence of most of the population of the world, and only focusing on the microgasm of the world that is represented as Amercian Culture (built half on debt, and half on denial) and comparing myself - with my very different goals and plans and lifepaths - to that.

So yeah - that's how I became rich.  

Sunday, October 29, 2006

Wealth.....

I woke up at 9:45 this morning, delightin in the feeling of sleeping luxuriously late...and realized once I got downstairs that it was actually 8:45 - and I felt as if I had a wealth of time.

I puttered around the house, doing my hair, cleaning the kitchen, building (or at least getting a damn good start on) a compost bin - and I felt as if I had a wealth of comfort in my home.

I cooked, stirring the sauce and the veggies and the meat, and set them aside, waiting for the ricotta that hubby is bringng home to be turned into a rich, meaty, juicy lasagna, and as I grazed through the fridge and the cupboard for dessert ideas, and I felt as if I had a wealth of food.

I watched 'Minature Earth' yesterday, I think it was... and one line caught my eye.

"If you have a fridge, and food to put in it....if you have a closet, and clothes to hang in it....if you have a bed, and a roof to go over it - you are amoung the richest 5% of people in the world...."

No matter how 'tight' things may appear to be - I am SO blessed, so wealthy, so loved, so fullof joy that sometimes I have to really sit down, and enjoy it - enjoy it with AWARENESS - the bliss of being rich.....and the comfort of being loved.

*hugsforeveryone*

Yes. It's been sunny for the last two days, and I've spent as much time out in the sun as I could, and MY!! That was just the medicine my spirit needed.

Friday, March 31, 2006

Peace

There are times when I simply cannot find peace. I'm too full of wants/needs/musthaves that are not in reach - that my whole being seems to just be spinning helplessly in circles. I'm a very logical person - I don't function well with uncertainty or sudden changes, and when I am shaken from my normal place of calm, it takes me a while to settle back into that state. For me, a large reason why I am - craving - a spiritual place/path is so that I can have a shortcut to peace. A quick way to slip out of the confusion and dizziness that I manage to get sucked into simply by going through life - and to slip into my centered naturally peaceful core.My usual quickest route to peace is nature - sitting under a tree, staring at the sky, listening to silence and smelling earth - but over the years - that has become less and less effective. I'm afraid that I'm losing touch with the - openess that allowed just the environment to calm me. Or maybe I'm growing so that what disturbs me is major enough that the simplistic things can no longer 'bring me down'. Serene.
Peaceful.
Calm.
Willow.
Grace.

Thursday, March 16, 2006

Prosperity

Ya know - something really hit me yesterday.  C had to get his car fixed, and when I went and checked the bank account, we were like 120 bucks in the hole - and he doesn't get paid until next week.  I KNEW that I could cover it (borrowing from a very laid back Peter to pay a bitch ass, charge you 32 dollars a DAY Paul) but I was still all 'oh my god! we are sooooo BROKE!!!' for most of the day.
Then, ya know, something hit me. We aren't broke, in the least. We are - quite comfortable actually, compared to the rest of the world (and not just the rich slice of it we see on TV). We can more or less eat what we want, live where we want, wear clothes that are new, and stay warm. It's not CHEAP - but we certainly aren't broke. We have enough 'wiggleroom' that while tragedy could strike - it's not very likely. And we have enough room for - little pleasures.


So, on my way home last night, I brought two bottles of this:



(it's a REALLLLLY good, REALLLLY cheap (8.99) California Champange) just to celebrate the fact that we live the kind of life in which we CAN, if we want to, buy Champange.


It's not the we are ungrateful for the things that we have - it's just that sometimes, it's the little things that we are sometimes LEAST grateful for that really matter the most.

Saturday, December 31, 2005

On the Cusp of something New.....

So - what's happened to me this year?

  • New Job
  • New City
  • New Friends
  • New Diary Name
  • My kitling died
  • My mommy brought a house
  • We started a budget and stuck to it
  • I started exercising
  • I stopped smoking
  • I learned how to make homemade sourdough
  • I started training to be a doula
  • I went to therapy
  • I learned how to swim
  • We brought a new car (without going further into debt)
  • We brought a new computer (without going further into debt)
  • We got new phones (without going further into debt)
  • We've paid off a lot of our debts

All in all, it's been a DAMN good year. It's had some rough spots - but really, 2005 has been a GOOD year for me. Somehow, I think that next year will be even better (come on POWERBALL!!!) and I think that this New Years Eve will be remarkable in its peace. I considered going out, and doing the damn thing - but eh. I thought about it, and thought about it, and thought about it, and finally said - ya know, the only reason I would be going out is because I'm 'supposed' to, and not really because I wanted to. So, tonight it'll just be me & the hubby (and I'm hoping that this year, he MIGHT make it home in 2005 so we can celebrate the start of 2006 together) and the kitling and some champange, and black eyed peas, and collard greens, and cornbread, and ham. Oh yeah, I'mma do it up RIGHT.
So - may next year be the best year of your life - at least until the year after that.
Cheers, Salut, and Love!!!
Kiya!


Friday, October 7, 2005

1001 Days

Something interesting I saw on one of my favorites OD's, and figured - hey! Why not? I think it might be hard to come up with 101, but, I'll make a college try.


The Mission:
Complete 101 preset tasks in a period of 1001 days. Assuming that I start my tasks on October 10, 2005 - I should have all of them complete by July 7, 2008.


The Criteria:
Tasks must be specific (ie. no ambiguity in the wording) with a result that is either measurable or clearly defined. Tasks must also be realistic and stretching (ie. represent some amount of work on my part).


Why 1001 Days?
Many people have created lists in the past - frequently simple goals such as new year's resolutions. The key to beating procrastination is to set a deadline that is realistic. 1001 Days (about 2.75 years) is a better period of time than a year, because it allows you several seasons to complete the tasks, which is better for organising and timing some tasks such as overseas trips or outdoor activities.



Family


Friends


Financial


Physical


Mental


Spiritual


Work


Home


 




 

Friday, August 5, 2005

An Interesting Read....

3 stories from Steve Jobs (co-founder of Apple) —entertaining and profound!

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation.

Today I want to tell you 3 stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just 3 stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of ReedCollege after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 mos. or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out? It started before I was born. My biological mom was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduatess, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course."

My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college. And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK.

It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting. It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5ct deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on.

Let me give you one example: Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating. None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them.

If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later. Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky - I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation - the Macintosh - a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me ? I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over. I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I retuned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together. I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple.

It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes. I lived with that diagnosis all day.

Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now. This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept: No one wants to die.

Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions. Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age.

On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

Wednesday, June 8, 2005

perfection

Once, a long long time ago, when I was a teenager and horribly split between being me and being the 'perfect' teen, I told myself that I was perfectly ME. You don't call a tree imperfect because it's not straight - it's just a tree, and in it's treeishness, it's beautiful and lovely, and perfectly Tree.


Anytime you judge something outside of what it is - it's going to fall short. Even a ruler isn't PERFECTLY straight. There are things in life that are close to perfect - but not being those things doesn't make you horrible. It makes us imperfect, wonderful beings.


I have to start reminding myself of that more. I'm perfect as me. As A'ishah, I'm a perfect representation of who I am - cuz I'm measuring me against myself.  And yeah - even the PERFECT me can be a BETTER me - but I really have to let go of trying to compare myself to someone else to try to figure out what I'm worth. I know being slimmer is BETTER for me - but I can't let myself feel bad because I'm fatter than everyone I work with. I just have to accept my state, and work to bettering it. I know I could be a BETTER wife to C, but I don't compare our marriage to others marriages - because - well, they ain't us. And never could be us.....and so how can I possibly compare myself to them?


Being less than perfect is what makes me, me - and what makes other people even interested in me. A little crack in the clay tends to make the pot even more beautiful - it makes it unique. And each of our faults, our failings, our not-quite-the-best choices and decisions - that's what makes us human.


And we're all perfectly human. Imperfections and all.

Tuesday, June 7, 2005

more reference Stuff...

20 Words to Change your Life


Whether it’s an overflowing dishwasher, a cranky kid or an hour stuck in traffic, life can sometimes take the wind out of our sails. But little words can make a big difference.

By Sally Stich

“Words really program our emotions and the way we think about things,” says Maryann Troiani, Psy.D., psychologist and coauthor of Spontaneous Optimism: Proven Strategies for Health, Prosperity & Happiness. “Negative words sap our enthusiasm, but repeating inspirational words to yourself can instantly boost your mood and motivate you.” Make these words your own and let them uplift you every week.

BEGIN
Take charge of your life by beginning something you’ve always wanted to do, like going back to college or cleaning out a closet that’s been driving you crazy. If your goal seems overwhelming, start small. Clean one shelf or take one class. “By daring to begin the life you’ve always wanted, you become energized,” says Mari Tankenoff, L.P. and CEO of MindFitness, Inc., a counseling and consulting firm in Minneapolis.

IMAGINE
Your imagination has no bound-aries. As children we pretend, but as we grow up we gradually lose our appreciation for daydreaming. “Every so often, I let my imagination run wild,” says Vicki Inman of West Point, New York. “By thinking about a fantasy vacation or new career, I visualize what I can accomplish. I think that dreaming about something is the first step toward achieving it.”

LAUGH
“Laughter is a direct route to the soul. It broadens your perspective, keeps you healthy, and makes an unbearable situation easier to deal with,” says Joel Goodman, Ed.D., director of The Humor Project, Inc. in Saratoga Springs, New York. Learn a few jokes to tell your kids, hang up your favorite cartoons or call an old friend and relive a funny moment you’ve shared.

BELIEVE
Tell yourself you will succeed at whatever you’re doing at the moment. Troiani suggests setting your mind to predict success. “Convince yourself good things will happen today and they will. If you tell yourself you can’t possibly achieve your goals, you won’t,” she says.

SEEK
It’s risky to say you don’t know something, but finding your way is half the lesson. Allow yourself to grow by exposing your vulnerability and insecurity. Skip the safe chitchat and take a chance in conversations. Travel someplace new. Don’t live strictly inside your comfort zone. Don’t play it safe.

PLAY
As adults, we can always find something that needs to be done at work or around the house and we forget how to have fun. Every week Pat Stoler of Bloomington, Minnesota, makes a conscious effort to take time off—whether it’s to talk to her daughter, build a sandcastle or take a walk. Afterward she is refreshed and able to think more clearly, she says.

TRUST
Analyze the ways you make your decisions. “I have learned to trust myself and go forward when I’ve made a decision, rather than second-guessing myself,” says Alicia McCollum of Ypsilanti, Michigan. “I’ve realized that being paralyzed by indecision is worse than making the wrong decision. You can’t grow if you don’t trust your inner voice.”

LISTEN
Many times when we listen, we’re distracted or preoccupied by trying to defend ourselves instead of hearing what is said. Try listening to the other person’s point of view first, and she’ll be more likely to pay attention to yours.

CREATE
In a world of accelerating change, creativity maintains balance in our lives. You don’t have to be a poet or a painter to exercise your creative muscles. “Even if it’s taking a new route to work, listening to a different kind of music, or brushing your teeth with your other hand, the more you use your creativity, the more it develops,” says Amy Malkoff, a musician and graphic designer in Marblehead, Massachusetts.

CONNECT
“Sometimes we yearn for something but don’t even know what we’re missing,” says Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., psychiatrist and author of Connect. “Simply put, it’s that we need one another.” Relationships are what pull us through the hard times and make the good times meaningful, so nurture the connections that uplift you. Have a family breakfast if dinner isn’t possible, have lunch with a friend or play with your pet.

TOUCH
In our fast-paced society, we keep each other at arm’s length with technology, the limits of our time and a seemingly endless list of chores. But humans need touch to survive and thrive, says Dr. Hallowell. Every morning hug and kiss your husband for a full 30 seconds before you both rush out the door. Schedule a massage for yourself. Pat your friend on the back, both literally and figuratively.

FORGIVE
Forgiveness is life-giving because it puts you in charge. “It doesn’t mean you’re caving in or letting the other person off the hook, but by giving up your resentment and offering compassion, you become empowered,” says Robert Enright, Ph.D., author of Forgiveness Is a Choice. It doesn’t change the harsh words that were exchanged or the unfair treatment you’ve received. But in time, forgiveness may help you remember things differently.

PRAY
“Prayer is asking God to transform the situation and become the heart of your life, your family, your community,” says David Bryant, chairman of America’s National Prayer Committee, a multidenominational coalition that sponsors the National Day of Prayer. So take a moment each day, whether you’re in the shower or stuck in traffic, and connect with God.

HOPE
Hope is the knowledge that even in the worst of times we can triumph over hardship and sorrow and grow in spirit. Hope is what sustains humanity in the face of harsh realities. Whether it’s the desire to attain a certain goal at work or the belief that tomorrow will be a better day, hope conquers fear and replaces it with a vital optimism.

CHOOSE
“We can’t always choose our circumstances, but we can choose our attitudes toward them,” says Greg Hicks, coauthor of How We Choose to Be Happy. If you lose your job, you probably didn’t want it to happen, but you decide whether to be angry or to see it as an opportunity. Perhaps you can discover a new career. Avoid negativity by asking, “What is the opportunity in this situation?”

APPRECIATE
At least once a day, stop to ask yourself what you appreciate about your life at this moment. Do you love the view from your kitchen window? Your husband’s smile? Instead of focusing on what you think are shortcomings in yourself, focus on what you like. Do you have beautiful lips, cute toes, nice legs? Are you a giving and thoughtful person? Admire the good in yourself.

GIVE
Happiness involves giving freely to others. Whenever Gina Meacham of Richfield, Minnesota, is having a particularly bad day, she tries to reach out and help her family or friends. “I have learned that by giving, I actually get more in return than the recipient,” she says.

READ
“Reading removes boundaries. When you read you can learn anything you want to know,” says Carmelita K. Williams, immediate past president of the International Reading Association. Get a library card for everyone in the family, and use it regularly. Try different genres: mystery, historical fiction, biography. Read about things you’ve never considered.

WRITE
By putting your thoughts on paper you can express emotions, organize thoughts and make dreams more concrete. You don’t have to use perfect grammar or fancy words. Write a letter to your mother or your unborn child. Tell your senator what you think. Keep a journal. Write a letter to your husband when you’re angry with him, then tear it up. Words are freedom. Words are power.

RELEASE
Avoid doing something just because everyone thinks you should. Give yourself permission to relax. Stop worrying about what your neighbor, your boss or your mother will think about you. Grieve for people, ideas or moments you’ve lost, and then let them go.



 


 


How to Stay Motivated to Exercise
You know you should exercise, but some days it's tough to get moving: not enough time, too tired, no energy. Counteract those excuses by discovering what motivates you, and use these strategies to develop and maintain an active lifestyle.

Steps:
1. Determine an attainable goal such as exercising twice on weekdays, once on weekends. Creating realistic goals will set you up for success. If your goal becomes too easy, you can always design a new one.

2. Create rewards for achieving your goal. The reward can be a massage, a new workout outfit, a new CD, a session with a personal trainer, or a new piece of sports equipment - whatever you really want.

3. Partner with a friend, co-worker or loved one - someone who will support you and your goals without sabotaging them.

4. Subscribe to a fitness magazine or online fitness newsletter. New tips and exercises can be inspirational and alleviate boredom.

5. Create a competition with co-workers or friends. For example, the team whose members exercise for 30 minutes, three times each week for three months wins a prize. You decide what the prize is.

6. Change into your workout clothes. Sometimes, it's just a matter of getting dressed that causes the biggest barrier.

7. Erase the concept that if you can't do at least 30 minutes you're wasting your time. Exercise burns calories, increases energy, and improves your health - even in small doses.

8. Try a new sport or class. Adding variety, group support and competition can increase your likelihood of exercising.

9. Make a commitment to your dog to go for a long walk at least twice each week.

10. Look for ways to incorporate activity into your day, even if you can't do your normal exercise routine. Take the stairs instead of the elevator, go bowling instead of to the movies, or use a push mower instead of a power mower.

11. Sign up for a race and send in the entry fee. Whatever your activity - running, biking, walking, swimming - there are hundreds of races offered all over the world. Pick a place you've always wanted to visit.

12. Join a gym. For some, paying for a membership increases the likelihood of compliance. It also eliminates the bad-weather excuse.



13. Keep a journal
Keep track of your workouts in a journal. It's a great tool to see your progress on paper.


14. Visualization
It will be a boost to take a moment to visualize your exercise. Imagine the running course; the path, the trees, the wildlife sounds and sights, and the smells of the outdoors. This can be a real jump-start!

15. Fun
There are a few exercise classes that I actually look forward to because they are so much fun. In fact, if my agenda doesn't look too crowded, I often work in an "extra" water aerobics class! 

16. Buying exercise equipment.
Classified ads are invariably filled with exercise equipment that is virtually new and reasonably priced. Decide what you want and watch for it.

17. Make an appointment
Put exercise on your calendar or in your day planner. If you treat exercise as an appointment you're more likely to keep the commitment as you would any other appointment.

18. Think about how good you will feel afterwards
When you think about not going to the gym, consider how you will feel afterwards, if you do go. Think about how you will
feel if you don't work out. With this in mind, get yourself into the gym and you've overcome the biggest obstacle - you!

19. While reading e-mail or websites
I do toe-heel exercises, raising and lowering, which helps flexibility. Sometimes I stretch my arms over my head, to the opposite side for five minutes. Shoulder scrunches and finger stretches and wrist rotations are other easy exercises while reading.

20. Staying motivated
Think of being healthy to watch your children grow up and to see your grandchildren.

21. Set goals
Set realistic goals that are somewhat flexible. For instance, I will exercise 3 times a week (but not on specific days). That way if you miss a day you can make it up. Don't start out too quickly. Vary your excersise routine to keep it interesting. 

22. Change is good
Don't do the same exercises all the time. After awhile they become boring to you as well as your muscles. Variety is the spice of life.

23. How to get going for your workout
Think about how energized and refreshing you will feel after excersising. Also think about how you can get fit and look fabulous at the same time!!!

24. Start small
Naturally, it's difficult to get started and you don't want to do a 30 minute work out the first time. So, start simple!Start out with a 10 leg lifts, sit ups, jumping jacks, etc..., then gradully add more as you go along!

25. Walk to the beat!
I walk for 45 minutes every day. Some days are tough to get going. I've made myself a cassette with 15 min. of slow-to-moderate songs, 20 min. of fast music, then 10 min. of moderate, then 5 min. at the end to cool down. Get your Walkman, Give it a try!

26. Do it, then think about it
When your mind starts arguing with you about starting your workout, tell it you'll get back to it after you've done the first 5 minutes of exercise. Check in with yourself then after you've done that first 5 minutes--you probably won't want to quit!

27. Sign up for a class
Sign up for a class, you will feel more motivated to go. Instead of just planning it out in you agenda. This works especially well if you sign up with a friend.

28. While you watch TV
Most of us find time to watch a couple hours of t.v at night, so why not exercise during that time? Do cardio during your favourite show and weights or abs on the commercials. The time will fly by.

29. Suit workout to you
Before picking a new exercise, make sure you choose a team sport if you like group activities. If you don't like to compete, choose a solo sport. If you like the great outdoors, head outside - if not, head for a gym. Don't waste your time!

30. Display a current pic on your bathroom mirror
Put up a current or "fat" picture of yourself on your bathroom mirror. Everyday when you get up, you tell yourself that you are moving further from that picture (and the way you looked in it) because you will do your workout that day.
Each day as you mentally prepare yourself to look better than the picture, you will be motivated to keep going.

31. Look in the mirror
When you feel lazy towards working out stand in front of the mirrow and examine the flaws of you body that need to get fixed.. workout will seem a lot more rewarding.

32. Stay Motivated
Cut out a photo of a fit person and a not so fit person. Tape them to your mirror or fridge and think, "Do I want to look like this, or like this?"

33. Write it down!
A goal not written, is only a wish

34. Turn up the music
Play fast-paced music, even before you start working out. Whenever I feel like rolling over and dying rather than working out, I crank up the radio and it always gets me motivated.

35. motivation
Well, motivation can come in any form. For me, I am motivated by certain movies and music. So whenever I really don't feel like working out, I just listen to certain songs that just hype me up. For me, the hardest part is always getting started, so the music or movie gives me a jumpstart.

36. My motivation
To be perfectly honest, being appealing to the opposite sex is what motivates me. I look at girls who I think look good and I want to be the guy that girls think looks good. It might sound superficial, but that's what motivates me.

37. Best motivation
Set your alarm early. I set mine at 5:00 and once it goes off, I'm awake anyway and go do my exercises. Do it during the weekdays and give yourself a rest on weekends if you need it.

38. Increase
Every time you work out, always try to increase your exercise by one weight or an extra 5-10 repetitions.
This will motivate you to keep trying harder and get a better feeling for yourself knowing that you are improving.

39. Give yourself tiny rewards..
I tell myself that if I'm able to complete my tough exercise routine today, I'll reward myself with that long luxurious bath I've been dying for later! For every accomplishment, treat yourself to a little something! You deserve it!


 



Thursday, April 24, 2003

Circular

I haven't started The Artist's Way yet. I keep putting it off, and I know exactly why. I'm terrified of finding out that actually - I'm not an artist, and I'll never be an artist. I'm frightened of holding up a mirror to my talent and my inspiration and see nothing worthy reflected back. I'm not sure that I'm supposed to be an artist - that I have any scrap of artistic ability or design in me - and that scares me as part of who I think I am is an artistic person.
Of course - part of the problem is the definition of artistic/creative. I can write - marginally. I can photograph - occasionally. I can't paint, or draw or dance or sing or scuplt or throw pots or any of that kind of 'artsy fartsy' stuff. However - I'm imaginative. I'm intuitive. I have a good eye for beauty and items of interest. I've got a great sense of color. I appreciate art in all of it forms, but I'm not sure that I can be a worthy creator of art.
Of course - that then leads into the question - what makes art worthy? It is being presented in a gallery? Is it being published? Is it the accolades of others? Is it just my own appreciation of what I've done? A classic cliche is that 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' and to me, art should be beautiful/interesting/intriguing to more eyes than just mine. But - what a sneaky catch-22 I present to myself - I'm afraid that I'm not a real artist, so I never expose my art to others, so I never have the chance to find out if I AM a real artist or not.
It's starting to come to a point where I HAVE to know, one way or another. I can't stay in this shamed limbo - where I don't feel comfortable claiming to be an artist, and I'm not happy thinking of myself as someone who isn't an artist.
I also wonder if my surrondings have anything to do with it - in school I felt like much more of an artist than I do now. I had - exposure to such a wide variety of things that my mind was constantly in a state of creative ferment. Now, I feel like my colors are dull and blurred, and my art comes out the same way - dull and empty. Yet, I'm not willing to place the 'blame' on my surrondings - true artists turn their surroundings into art, no matter how ugly they are.
Maybe my problem is with my pre-concieved notions of what an artist has to be.
An artist should be...
unique
openminded
passionate
intensely focused
constantly producing
communally focused
political
talented
effortless
different
flighty
free-spirited
inventive
charismatic
dedicated
obsessed
unencumbered
poor
unstable
surrounded by beauty or conflict
inspired

MerriamWebster tells me that an artist is:
1 : one who professes and practices an imaginative art
2 : a person skilled in one of the fine arts
3 : a skilled performer; especially : ARTISTE
4 : one who is adept at something

That's a much less demanding definition - essentially it tells me that the intention and the practice of art is all it requires to be an artist. I have the intention - that is always there with me, it's the practice in which I slip up at,and the more pratice I have, the closer I will come to being skilled. And The Artist's Way is supposed to help you with JUST that - recovering my creativity from a variety of blocks, including limiting beliefs, fear, self-sabotage, jealousy, guilt, addictions, and other inhibiting forces, replacing them with artistic confidence and productivity. Yes - I think that if I'm not yet an artist, I can become an artist. I'm taking tomorrow off, and I will start The Artist's Way .

What a painful circle that was.

Tuesday, April 8, 2003

Oprah

For a while, I could never really understand the attraction that SO many women have to Oprah. I've known some women who are TOTAL Oprah-fanatics - and in a way it's alway freaked me out.

Today - she had a show on called "What Should I Do with my life?" and my mother stopped to watch it. Can I say HALLUEIEH??? There was a lawyer who was making 300K who quit his job to open a bakery. There was the rocket scientist who started a dating service. There was the 4th generation corporate mogul - who quit to become a cop. And as my mother watched the show - something in her eased. I think that she was reassured by the fact that I'm NOT crazy to be willing to give up loads of money in order to be happy. So - she's agreeed that our next conversation about money will not focus ON money - but instead on what it will take for me to be happy.

So - thank you Oprah. Thank you sooo much.

Thursday, April 3, 2003

Liberating

Once again may I present the FABULOUS Aaron McGruder!!






So. I feel much better today. I've definitely decided that I want to ask him to consider transfering his job and moving back here once his lease is up. I've got a reputation of so not being much of an emotional person - logic is my watchword - but I'm about to go ALL kinds of girly-girl on him.

I've started reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and it's rather intriguing. Right now, I'm working on the first habit, and - I don't know. It seems to be going well, but I'm not sure. It's funny - I think that on my own I've actually been working TOWARDS some of those very habits, but not realized what I was doing or where I was going - I was just doing something right. So - I'm creeping through that book slowly.

I've also come to a conclusion about the money issues. I realized that really - I DO have a budget. I save some, I pay all my bills on time, and then I live off of what is left. That's fine - that's good. My 'problem' is my spending habits! I need to work on what I CHOOSE to spend the money that is left on, and I have to start making better choices about what I buy and from where and when. So - a few things that I'm going to pare away at -
1) I'm going to have to stop going to the bookstore every couple of days. There is a wonderful library downtown that has all the books I could ever want - and they are FREE - and I can renew online endlessly until there is a hold placed on one of the books - and even then, I only have to take THAT book back. It's a total win-win. I don't have to cut back on my voracious reading, but I CAN cut back on my spending. Also - I figure I can read a book, and if I like it - make plans to buy it at a later date. All the satisfaction for none of the price.
2) We've GOT to cut out eating out every night of the weekends we are together. Usually, we can easily spend 100.00 for dinner for both of us, and though we do usually switch off so that I pay for one night and he pays for the other - that's STILL close to 300.00 bucks a month - at the MINIMUM. Yipes. This is one area that I'm going to have to consult with Corey in, because I know that he LOVES to go out to eat, and I don't want him to feel like I'm asking him to pay for dinner out all the time.
3) I'm going to start bringing in my breakfast and lunch to work. I can easily spend 10.00 a day on food, and not be fully satisfied because the quality of the food at our cafe isn't all that great. I LOVE to cook anyway - and I have an extensive collection of rubbermaid and gladware and hot/cold bags. That nicely segues into the next item..
4) I've got start shopping at Costco. On this eating plan, I eat A LOT of meat and veggies. I mean A LOT. And buying them one at a time, and leaving my freezer empty, makes no sense, when I have a Costco card, and I KNOW that I can get the same amount of stuff for a MUCH lower price. My freezer is currently mostly empty - all that is in it is some lonely freezer-burnt fish, half a bag of chicken wings, and a few bags of veggies. It's CRYING out to be filled with wonderful meals and makings of meals on a regular basis.
5) The last thing is that I need to curb my random shopping sprees. Though, I hve to admit after dropping ALL that money on my computer - I seriously doubt that I'm going to be spending ANY large sum of money any time soon. I also have to start to gauge my 'needs' versus my 'wants'. For instance - I think I need a car charger for the batteries in my digital camera. But - that implies that I'm going to be using the camera enough to actualy run through the batteries just as I have one MORE picture to take - and I don't have any extra batteries. Looking on eBay, I saw that one extra battery for my camera costs about 8 bucks - the car charger costs about 50.00. Now - for the cost of the car charger, I could get 6 batteries - which would be at the minimum 12 HOURS of camera time. Or - I could just buy two extra batteries, and keep them fully charged from the charger I have at home. I'd spend under 20 bucks, I'd have 6 - 8 hours of shooting time (and really - how often am I going to use my camera CONSTANTLY for 6 hours???) and I'd be saving a big ole hunka cash. Plus - if I'm out in the middle of who knows where and have walked 1/2 hour from the car, I'm going to be rather grumpy about walking ALL the way back to the car, waiting the 1/2 hour while the battery recharges, and then walking ALL the way back to where I was.
So.... I want to scale down my thoughts and think about what I REALLY want - and them find the cheapest possible solution rather than just going for the FIRST solution I see.




I've reinstituted my ban on TV. I'm reading, listening to music, chatting with friends online, doing voga, practing belly-dancing, laying out in the sun - almost ANYTHING besides sitting there and wasting brain time watching TV. Though I have to admit - I give myself free rein on Friday nights. How can I miss Forensic Fridays??

Speaking of yoga - I'm so excited that I've gotten stronger! I'm guessing it's from the loss of weight (which means that I REALLY need to start lifting weights to keep my muscle strength up) but there are a couple of yoga poses it was almost impossible for me to hold before, and now I can do them - not super easily, but a hell of a lot easier than before. I figure by the end of this month, I should be ready to get my Pilates tapes back and start doing them as well. I also need to start stretching every morning. The yoga is good - but it doesn't really PULL me out like it should. I have a Stretching Book - and since I don't have belly-dancing tonight, I think I will work on that instead.

Tuesday, February 4, 2003

Sky

I've seen many entries about the Columbia Space Shuttle - and they seems to go either one of two ways - weeping for this 'national tradegy' or wondering why it's even classified as a national tradgey. I'm firmly in the latter camp.

I wanted to be an astronaut as a child - or an archeologist. The astronaut career I had to abdandon when I found out that you had to have uncorrected vision of at least 20/40 - which I most likely didn't have when I was born. I gave up on archeology because I wouldn't make enough money. (See previous entry on my opinions of money-making).

Even as a child I KNEW that space travel was dangerous. A human NEEDS air to breathe, and space is totally air-free. Yes, it's rather simplistic, and doesn't cover even a fraction of the tragedies that can occur - but I had a childs understanding. I'm sure that each of those seven astronauts had that SAME understanding - and still felt that yes, it was worth their LIVES to travel to space. Even though I may never see the world from space - I understand and respect the decision they made.

With that understanding and respect - it makes no sense for this incident to be any more of a national tragedy than the deaths of 7 construction workers - 7 soliders - 7 deepsea oil rig workers - 7 policemen. It IS a deeply persoanl tragedy for each of the families and friends of those who die - but that is the effect of any death.

Perhaps we as a country have too many national tragedies - or maybe we don't have enough. If the President took time out of his day to lead the Nation is mourning for EVERY American soul who dies a violent and wrongful death - he wouldn't have time to plan a war that will guarentee several hundred (at the minimum) violent and unnessary deaths.
How many people will we have to send to their deaths in the Oil Fields of Iraq before it becomes a national tragedy?


The sky's the limit...

Thursday, April 26, 2001

Mo-Ins-Der

Jazzy’s Top Ten Slim Down Reasons

1) I’m tired of shopping in the fat girl ghetto of clothing stores
2) I want to be strong enough to be able to carry a couple of bags of groceries home without feeling like I am going to fall out
3) I want to be more flexible...you can only bend your body in so many ways before the lovely rolls get in your way.
4) I want to be more proud of how I look
5) I want my self image of myself to translate into real life
6) I want to be healthier so I can do more…easier.
7) I want to be in shape so that when I DO have a baby, I will be the best incubator I can be.
8) I wanna wear sexy lingerie without worrying about looking like a parody of a sexy woman
9) I wanna be able to run for fun (or for my life) without feeling like I am going to fall out
10) I want to. For me. AND for the way others look at me AND the way I look at myself.


Motivation. Yes!

I had another dream/dream thought as I was falling asleep last night. It was me going somewhere (driving no less) in a lovely silver car. I stepped out and I was like the perfect version of myself (body wise), and I had there long lovely dark brown locs with brilliant red tips that came over my shoulders. It was summerish time and I was looking GOOD. I think that is going to be my dream/sleep/meditation image for a while. Me looking the way I want to look… doing my own thang.

Inspiration. YES!

My auntie died of colon cancer when I was about 8. I used to look just like her, but shorter. *LOL* I admired her greatly, and she was a wonderful woman…rather like who I want to be. If she had been smaller, the doctors would have been able to find the cancer before it metasized throughout her entire body. She lost almost 100 pounds before she died…and I would greatly prefer NOT going out like that. I want to live in my skin healthy and whole for a very long time.

Determination. YES!

What more do I need?


Stay Jazzed.

Friday, January 26, 2001

Stronger.

I was talking to AOIM …umm…Gemini Complex a few days ago, and somehow we got on the topic of seeing how many issues people have, and she asked me if that was a bad thing. (Kelly… I know I am saying this reallly bad… but bear with me). And my reply was that I was amazed every time I read something about the hurts and pains that people go through, and yet still manage to exist and love and write and feel joy and fight on. It amazes me how STRONG people are, how much pain people can suffer through, and yet still mange to share a joke or laugh or try to cheer up someone else’s day. I am awed by the simple endurance of people, and how so much of what we think we know of people is really a shield over the pains and joys of their lives. Most of the diarists I read probably don’t even know that I am there, looking over their shoulder as they struggle through life, being inspired by the courage that they show in just living…in moving and loving and growing. Reading all of ya’ll *waves hand to encompass the whole OD* has let me know just how BLESSED I am in being able to do things without even thinking that some others have had to struggle to be able to do. Sometimes I am shamed at the petty problems that I bitch about in light of the struggles that others go through. But I am always always always encouraged…to push on… to not just stop and let life pass me by..to keep on going even though I really have no clue where I am going.
I didn't say what I was trying to say as well as I wanted to...but I hope somebody hears me and understands...

Thank’s ya’ll…


Stay Jazzed.

Wednesday, January 10, 2001

I believe

Swiped this from an email... it's so gently sad & true.
I believe-
that we don't have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I believe-
that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every
once in a while and you must forgive
them for that.

I believe-
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I believe-
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I believe-
that it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I believe-
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last
time you see them! .

I believe-
that you can keep going
long after you can't.

I believe-
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I believe-
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I believe-
that regardless of how hot and
steamy a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had
better be something else to take
its place.


I believe-
that heroes are the people
who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I believe-
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe-
that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.

I believe-
that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you're down,
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe-
that sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me
the right to be cruel.

I believe-
that just because someone doesn't love
you the way you want them to doesn't
mean they don't love you with all they have.

I believe-
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.

I believe-
that it isn't always enough to be
forgiven by others. Sometimes you
have to learn to forgive yourse! lf.

I believe-
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I believe-
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe-
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.

I believe-
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a
secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-
that two people can look at the exact
same thing and see something totally.
different.

I believe-
that your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you.

I believe-
! that even when you think you have no more
to give, when a friend cries out to you
you will find the strength to help.

I believe-
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I believe-
that the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.



Saturday, August 5, 2000

Life Instructions

*smiles* I grabbed this from someone else's diary, and I thought it was rather wise & nice.


Instructions for life:


    Eat a lot of brown rice
    Give to people more than they expect and do it with grace
    Learn by heart your favorite poem
    Do not believe everything you hear, do not spend all you have and do not sleep as much as you would like
    When you say "I love you", mean it
    When you say "I am sorry" look at the other in the eyes
    Keep an engagement of at least six months before getting married
    Believe in love at first sight
    Do not ever make fun of other peoples dreams
    Love deeply and with passion. You may get hurt but it is the only way to live life fully.
    In case of disagreements be fair.
    Do not offend
    Do not judge others by their parents
    Speak slowly but think fast
    If someone asks you a question you do not want to answer, smile.
    Remember that the biggest loves and major successes entail greater risks
    Call your mother
    Say "bless you" if someone sneezes
    When you lose, do not forget the lesson
    Remember the three R's: Respect towards yourself, Respect towards others and Responsibility for all your actions
    Do not allow a small misunderstanding to damage a big friendship
    When you realize you have made a mistake, correct it immediately
    Smile when you answer the phone, who calls you will hear it in your voice
    Get married with a man/woman that likes conversation. When you are old, your ability to converse will be more important than any other
    Spend some time in solitude
    Open your arms to change, but do not throw away your values
    Remember that silence sometimes is the best answer
    Read more books and watch less TV
    Live a good and honourable life.
    Later on when you will be old and you will remember the past, you will see that you will be able to live it a second time
    Trust in your beliefs but lock your car
    A loving mood at home is important.
    Do everything you can to create a loving, harmonious and relaxed atmosphere
    When in disagreement with your loved ones, give importance to the present situation
    Do not bring up the past
    Read between the lines
    Share your friends, it is a way to reach immortality
    Be kind with the Earth
    Do not ever interrupt one that shows you affection or kindness
    Take care of your business
    Do not trust a man or a woman that does not close their eyes when you kiss them
    Once a year visit a place you have never been before
    If you make a lot of money give to help others while you are still alive. This is the best satisfaction that good fortune can give you
    Remember that not obtaining what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck
    Learn all the rules and then infringe some
    Remember that the best relationship is the one in which the love between two people is bigger than the need you have for one another
    Judge your success in relation to what you must renounce to obtain it
    Love and cook with some abandonment



Stay Jazzed

Friday, July 28, 2000

Dance Like Nobody's Watching

I finally found the essay that saying comes from. :) I think it has alot of relevance to my life... *sighs* EVERYTHING seems to have alot of relevance to my life suddenly.

Dance Like No One Is Watching
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawn on me that these obstacles were my life."

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with...and remember that time waits for no one...

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die - - to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy..

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Thought for the day: Work like you don't need money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one's watching. Get busy living or get busy dying.

Stay Jazzed